Some Steps you can Take to Improve your Mood
1. Make a list. Sometimes we get depressed because we feel overwhelmed by all the things we have to do but haven’t got around to doing yet. Simply making a list can be a huge relief as you’re starting to bring things under control. That alone can help to lift your mood.
2. Take action. You’ve made a list, and you still feel overwhelmed? Then get started on the first thing you have to do. Is it a big task? Break it down and just do the smallest task possible. That way you’ll feel you’re starting to make progress.
3. Exercise. You don’t need to do a serious workout. Just going for a walk can change the way you feel.
4. Get out of the house and do something. Staying home all day can really get you down. But we often feel much better if we change environments.
5. Play some lively music and dance to the beat. Crank up whatever music you like to listen to. But choose something that’s happy and makes you sing along.
6. Talk about it. Getting things off your chest can make a big difference. It can also help you work out the reasons you feel down.
— Fyodor Dostoyevsky (via onlinecounsellingcollege)
— e.e. cummings (via thatkindofwoman)
Tips for Making Small Talk
Being good at making small talk is a crucial life skill, and is key for making a positive impression. Some tips to help you with this include:
1. Go prepared when you’re meeting new people, or when you have to attend a social event. Think about some topics you can talk about with others (and that will depend on the people you are meeting). Prepare some general questions to get others talking (For example, what are they doing for the holidays; or what good movies have they seen recently?) Also, if you’ve met some of the people at a previous event, try to remember a few things about them (such as what are their main interests, or where do they work?)
2. Most people feel uncomfortable when meeting someone new so be the first person to say “hello.” If you’re not sure if the person will remember you, help put them at their ease by saying who you are.
3. Don’t rush introductions. Focus hard on remembering the names of those you meet, and use them often to fix them in your mind.
Types Of Love
Love, while wonderful, isn’t black and white, and it sure isn’t simple. There are lots of different types of love and we experience different types with the various people in our lives. Here are the types of love:
- Romantic Love. This is often what people think of when they first think about love. Romantic love occurs between two people who are in a relationship and care deeply for each other. They are attracted to each other as friends, as well as physically and emotionally. Romantic love is the love we feel for our partners, and is often accompanied by things like butterflies in our stomach or thinking about them all the time.
- Companionate Love. This is the kind of love we feel for our friends and we can also feel it with our partners as they grow into being our best friends. Companionate love is emotional and spiritual but lacks the physical aspect that romantic love has. With companionate love we care deeply about someone, love the way they contribute to our lives and want to see them happy. We are comfortable with them and have a routine of being together that bring happiness and comfort to both parties.
- Unconditional Love. This is the type of love that we feel with our families, or in some cases, with very good friends. Unconditional love means that we will never stop loving someone, even if they hurt or disappoint us. When we love someone unconditionally there is no worry breaking up because the love is forever.
- Physical Love. This is also known as lust, and describes the chemical/physical attraction that we can feel towards someone. Physical love may can be felt on it’s own or it may be combined with other types, such as romantic love. Physical love is an attraction to a person’s physical appearance, although a person’s personality can also play a role in our attraction to them as well. Physical love can often develop into more when we get to know the person better, which is often the case with new couples.
- Toxic Love. Toxic love happens when we love someone who isn’t good for us. For example, if you are in a relationship with someone who is abusive or dangerous to you in some way, you may very well know that the relationship isn’t healthy but you love them regardless. It’s characterized by the feeling of an invisible force that draws you into the relationship even if it’s not good for you. Toxic love is often characterized by a feeling of desperation and a sense of urgency to be together, but not in the stable and healthy way that other types of love are. The reasons for being in a relationship that involves toxic love often have more to do with the individuals self esteem than the other person in the relationship.
- Unrequited love. Unrequited love is the experience of loving someone who either doesn’t love you back, or doesn’t know how you feel. Unrequited love can be painful and you may feel “lovesick” for the other person. You may yearn for them and the longing can be difficult to endure. You may have to see them with another partner, which can make you feel particularly pained. Unrequited love can be changed if you eventually end up together, but it can also last for years if you continue to harbor feelings for someone without it ever materializing into a relationship.
8 Ways to be More Productive with Less Effort
1.Sort out your priorities. Make time to honestly reflect on your life, and to think about what is important to you. Where are you going? What do you want? What are the steps that will take you there?
2. Focus on the essential tasks. Next, think about your short term responsibilities. Ask yourself: “Out of all the tasks that I have to do, which will get me the greatest return for my time and effort?” Make a list of these types of tasks — they’re your most important things to do this week.
3. Eliminate what you can. Now look at your list. What on the list is not essential? Is there anything there that you can drop from your schedule, delegate to someone else, or put on a “waiting list”. Often when we review these non-essentials later, we find they weren’t necessary at all.
4. Do essential tasks first. Begin each day by doing the two most important tasks. Don’t wait until later in the day as they’ll get pushed aside to make time for other stuff that arises throughout the day. You’ll find that if you do these tasks right away, your productivity will really increase.
5. Eliminate distractions. If you allow yourself to be constantly interrupted by email notifications, IM, cell phones, social media and so on, then you’ll never be productive. Turn them and, if you can, disconnect yourself from the internet.
6. Keep it simple. Don’t waste time on applications that are meant to organise your schedule. Make a simple to-do list with a word document, or with some paper and a pen. Then get started on whatever work you had planned on doing.
7. Do one thing at a time. In most situations, multi-tasking slows you down. You can’t get things done with a million things demanding your attention. Focus on what’s in front of you, to the exclusion of all else. That way, you are likely to achieve more, in less time, and with less effort.
8. Make time for honest reflection. At the end of the day, reflect on what you have achieved. Make sure you affirm yourself for your hard work. Think about possible changes you need to make - and commit to keep going, and aiming for your goal.
— Sarah Dessen, Just Listen
How to be Confident Without Being Arrogant
1. Be approachable – Someone who’s standoffish, or likes to keep their distance, tends to make other people feel uncomfortable. But if you’re warm and friendly, and have open body language, you’ll help other people to feel much more at ease.
2. Be natural and genuine – We can tell if other people are being insincere, or if their compliments are false, or if they’re trying to impress. But if you work on being natural, and revealing your true self, you will seem like a “real person” who doesn’t wear a mask.
3. Be modest, and be willing to share the praise with others – Give other people credit for the things that they do well, and notice their hard work, and their personal contributions.
4. Listen carefully to others, and ask for their advice – We appreciate when others want to learn from our experience, or they ask us what we think, or they want to know our views. But a proud know-it-all never asks for others’ input. They’re sure that they are right, and others’ viewpoints do not matter.
5. Admit your mistakes and your areas of weakness – It makes you seem more human, and much more likeable, as we all make mistakes and are conscious of our flaws.
— Anais Nin (via goddesswithinyou)
Tips for Coping with a Dreary Mood
1. Accept that we all feel low at times (but recognize that’s different from clinical depression.)
2. Don’t beat yourself up about feeling miserable. Remind yourself it’s normal to feel this way sometimes. (That is, we all feel bored, discouraged or a failure at times.)
3. Be real and acknowledge that today is a bad day so it’s going to be harder to keep your motivation.
4. Think about one thing you can try or do to interrupt your thinking and take your mind off things.
5. Get up from sofa, or switch off your computer, and make the small commitment to take some form of action. For example, just going for a walk can start to lift and change your mood.
6. Smile at yourself, and other people you encounter. You’ll start to feel more human, and things won’t seem so bad.
7. Don’t keep looking back, or going over what went wrong. That won’t help your feelings, or help to move you on.
8. Think of things that make you happy, or people you enjoy, or all the many things that you are grateful for.
What your Favourite Icecream says about You
I’m not sure the experts would agree with this, but it’s fun to see if your favourite ice-cream provides insights into your personality.
1. Vanilla Ice Cream Lovers: You are described as being colorful, adventurous, a risk taker, and an idealist – ironically with a tendency to be dependent upon others. Essentially, you’re a very private person who prefers to hang out with a few close friends. Your personality is best suited to the kind of person who likes rocky road or vanilla ice-cream.
2. Double Chocolate Chunk Ice Cream Lovers: You are described as someone who likes to be the centre of attention. You tend to be rather self-absorbed, and may be over-dramatic at times. You’re also stylish, vivacious, charming, perhaps a bit flirtatious, and the life and soul of the party. You have a low boredom threshold and are drawn to novel experiences. Your personality is best suited to the kind of person who likes butter pecan or chocolate chip ice cream.
3. Strawberries and Cream Ice Cream Lovers: You are described as being more withdrawn and introverted. You often find it hard to cope with pressure and stress, and these tend to leave you feeling worn out, overwhelmed and irritable. Your personality is best suited to the kind of person who likes chocolate chip ice cream.